Insight Dialogue

I never thought of this.

“The Basics of moral communication are straight forward:  abstaining from lying, from divisive speech, from abusive speech and from idle chatter.  Speech should also be true, useful, spoken at the proper time, and spoken with lovingkindness.”

I never thought of “Moral Communication.”  In other words, to speak lies, to talk down to someone, to intimidate someone with your speech, to manipulate someone by what you say… is IMMORAL.

The three moral components of Buddhism’s eightfold path–wise speech, wise action, and wise living.  Unwise speech, therefore, is immoral.  It really makes me reconsider what comes out of my mouth!

This is taken from Insight Dialogue.  It was in my files.  I think i got it from the sangha group at the Unitarian church in Iowa City.  It’s come at the right time.

Alone in my room i am the most enlightened, knowledgeable wonderful person.  But put me with another human being or a group of human beings and….. well, it all breaks down.

Insight Dialogue is an interpersonal meditatin practice, bringing mindfulness and tranquility of silent meditation directly into our experience with other people.

…. suffering has interpersonal components:  separation from people you love, being with people who irritate you, unsatisfied longings.  Interpersonal suffering is an important aspect of all suffering.  The hungers for pleasure in relationships, to be seen or admired by others, and to hide or escape– these are all causes of suffering, which is then sustained by confusion and habit.

Release from interpsersonal suffering is possible…

Good stuff, eh?  If the quality of your life is based on the quality of your relationships.  And if you, like me, suffer from social anxiety or any kind of anxiety.  If fulfilling relationships elude you, then, this instruction into and Insight Dialogue practice might be useful.


I Love This.

My college roommate and I used to collect quotes for one another. We’d write inspirational words down on Post-its and keep files where we regularly stored our favorite messages that we’d stumbled across. We both agreed: words are powerful.

When someone expresses an observation that we identify with, a sense of validation and synchronicity arises within us. We’re reminded that we’re not alone, that someone, somewhere else in the world, has discovered the same truth that we’re living or perhaps arrived at a conclusion we needed to hear ourselves.

Make your own Bible. Select and collect all the words and sentences that in all your readings have been to you like the blast of a trumpet.
-Ralph Waldo Emerson

I came across the quote above from a fellow quote-collector, journaler, and generally uplifting blogger, Gala Darling. In her “30 Days of Radical Self-Love Letters,” she talks about starting a radical self-love journal where you can store all of the things that make you happy. Since I came across this quote, I’ve noticed my own journaling has changed quite a bit in turn. It’s filled less with my own internal ramblings, and more with words, images, and conversations that I find uplifting.

In short, it’s turning into my own “bible.”

Of Yourself You Need Do Nothing

My prayer today (2nd time this week) is “God, in your infinite organizing power and wisdom”, ….. Then I did not know the words but I just was quiet and thought about my job and my office…. And then I said “Sprit, do my work” or “my little job” or something to that effect. It does not matter. The Universe does not speak in English or any linguistic form. It only understands intention and desire.


But, the point is for the second time this week, I have been peaceful and organized in my work. I just color-coded a box of files— that is when I knew this is Spirit, because “I” or “Lois” really would not bother or take pleasure in that task or think it was necessary or have the skills and the patience to complete it. So I knew it was Spirit. Yesterday, I did that data entry fairly methodically. I had those files that I did not want to finish. “We” broke it down, the task, I got the idea to just organize the files first, take the pages out of the sheet protectors, remove the staples, put the pages in the order in which they were going to be. Like rinsing the dishes. Prep work. Then from there, the rest of this task that I had been putting off for a number of weeks just flowed and I was able to not get it done but make progress.


So, Spirit is doing my work. I am praying for Spirit, God, in your infinite organizing power, please make my home a home– pleasing, comfortable, orderly. Yes, as Mom always said, “a place for everything and everything in its place.” Sometimes I call on my mother’s energy. That prayer works a miracle.

Faith in Daily Life